I read a disturbing and of course, a very interesting debate of opinions. The man said that according to social scientists, career women and marriage does not mix well. On the other hand, a very outspoken lady replied with a spicy statement: “Studies aside, modern marriage is a two-way street. Men should own up to their responsibilities, too.”
I will not try to criticize the above mentioned point of view. Instead, I will lay down some facts that I’ve seen unfold in a very interesting place called Life.
If you were raised by a poor family, struggled your way through almost every aspect of your life: be it education and the finer things in life, and you’ve succeeded in making something worthy of your persona, it is easy to understand why you are driven by desire to succeed in the real world.
If you’ve seen your siblings sharing a piece of toast for breakfast, your Mom always thinking on where to get the money to pay the mortgage, it is understandable for you to weave your dreams of not experiencing the same. If you were a product of a broken family, it is expected that your goal is to make your marriage and family life work.
What I mean is, people should not judge the capability of a woman to keep a family base on having a career of his own or not. A career woman loves her children as much as a woman who stays at home loves her kids. A career woman will always seek to please her man, keep her family and marriage intact, much like the woman who stays at home. They both have the same hormones. The only difference is, the career woman is also an individual that has needs; needs that fall on Maslow’s hierarchy of needs. Like men, women has self-esteem needs. Some women derive it from being able to care for children, some get it from being successful both in their work and home.
Depending on the nature of profession, career women are more adept at socializing. They can always converse with your boss, serve and entertain your male buddies. Because their work involves accomplishing a task, decision-making is one skill that they develop, as well as time management. A career woman is also raised by a pair of parents, who in one way or another, imparted words of wisdom to her which she will always use whenever called for.
Men who do not prefer career women most probably have difficulty approaching career women. Most probably, because career women are sure of themselves. They know what they want. They know what they need. You just cannot take them for a ride and leave. Lastly, career women may not have come to existence if all men are always capable to put food on the table and pay the bills.