One of the most difficult things for a man to divine is when a woman is interested. Women are more cautious than men, and wait a while to indicate that there is possibly some interest. Read those words carefully – possibly some interest. Women usually don’t jump into things. So how do you know when to pursue?
In my checkered dating career, I have approached many women, and been rebuffed by quite a few. Some nicely, some not so nicely. I learned to let the person in whom I may be interested lead a little. Traditionally, men have been the aggressor, but I can assure you that is not always the best tactic. Sure, be aggressive, but do it gently, and be ready to back off, if you want to have success. Many women will just shut you out if you persist when they have not evinced some interest, or have made it clear that they are not interested. Be patient, and you will be rewarded with the attentions of someone you may like a lot.
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Cultivate a Confidant – One good method is to watch for negatives in conversation. If during your getting-to-know-you conversation, there are many subjects upon which you think differently, then maybe you will be acquaintances and not “special” friends. If it happens that you know of an upcoming event that she might like, suggest it and wait for a response. Now, there is an idea – wait for a response. This can also be a way of finding out some things she does not like.
A good thing to keep in mind is that a long-term relationship is based in friendship, not just lust. There is nothing wrong with lust — without it, many of us would not be here. But you must keep in mind that your woman friend, significant other, lover, whatever, will be a friend and confidant as well as all the other good stuff. You must be able to criticize each other, share secrets, share good stuff and bad. Someone once said that a friend is someone whose faults you know and you love them anyway. That is not to say that every single thing has to be shared. Who among us does not have a skeleton or two? Be careful what you share — it will not always be a good idea. Besides, why would you want to disclose something hurtful? Just be honest in all things, and then you don’t have to worry.
Don’t Be a Sore Loser
We as men must realize that women are not necessarily interested just because we are interested. This harkens back to the concept of treating women with equanimity. The most beautiful and desirable woman may just not be interested in you. It does not necessarily mean there is anything wrong with you — she may like a different sort of man. I have heard so many men contend that a certain woman is “stupid” because she did not give him a tumble. Well, just think about that and work out who is being stupid. The thing to do is to be friendly with her, and keep your eye peeled for someone else who might be interested in you. Never antagonize the woman who rejected you.
At the end of the day, if a woman is keen on you, she will find a way to let you know. If you are smart enough to see the indication and act on it, things will happen. If you are not, it’s your loss. So keep your eyes open and your brain in gear. Be open for all possibilities and be prepared to act on them. Don’t push yourself on anyone, especially women!